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Choosing Love - FREE Course

Stop letting relationship anxiety and ROCD control your life!
Find peace from doubt, worry, anxiety, and intrusive thoughts, and get the relationship you want. 

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This is the FREE version of the Choosing Love course.

You can visit the full course here.

You've spent hours...

  • Trying to figure out if you're with the right person
  • Questioning whether your anxiety is a warning sign to leave  
  • Feeling nervous that you're making a mistake
  • Debating whether you'd be happier with someone else
  • Asking people if they think you're in the right relationship
  • Monitoring your thoughts and feelings to figure out if you're really attracted or in love enough
  • Confessing to your partner that you're doubting the relationship
  • Struggling with the urge to break up
  • Reading article after article, trying to find an answer...
Because of this, you and your partner are in a lot of pain. You’ve tried all kinds of ways to get rid of the problem - relaxation, meditation, etc. - and nothing has worked. You’re confused, frustrated, and nearly hopeless. You don’t understand why this is happening, how to make it go away, or even what to do next. 

The "Choosing Love" Course Can Help!


ROCD is hard to overcome until you know how it works. 

The "Choosing Love" Online Course will help you to find peace from ROCD and get the relationship you want.

Using easy-to-follow, step-by-step audio lessons, handouts, and exercises, you will find the practical tools needed to start finding peace from ROCD on day one. 

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What You'll Get

When you sign up, you'll have on-demand access to all of the course material from day one.
All of the course material is downloadable, so you can save it on your phone to listen to whenever you want.
You'll have lifetime access to the course, so you can access all the new content I add as the course grows.

This free course gives you access to the first lesson of the full course.

Over 3 hours of audio lessons

Including a 40-minute overview of how to overcome ROCD.
In all of the audio I share what has helped people to find the most peace and clarity.

Over 25 Handouts with Prompts and Visuals

Helpful handouts with text and images to help with different learning styles.

Practical Tools on Day One

Easy-to-follow exercises paired with each lesson, including how to do self-led ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention).
These tools are designed to help you make progress from day one.

A Growing Library of Lessons, Conversations, and FAQs

This is a growing course, and you will have access to all new content being added over time. I plan to release more audio and handouts, as well as conversations with other therapists and course members who've completed the course.

Your Guide, Cameron

Hi, I'm Cameron.
I'm a therapist who helps people with relationship anxiety and ROCD. 
For this course, think of me as your guide.
I started this journey by dealing with my own relationship anxiety. After I recovered, I set out to help other people find the same peace and confidence that I feel now. 
I've walked this path with many people. I've seen the patterns that keep people stuck, as well as the steps that set people free.
You don't have to reinvent the wheel. Let me share with you what I've learned to help you recover too.

Four Ways This Course is Unique

  1.  To my knowledge, this is the only online course that uses ERP and ACT to help people find peace from relationship anxiety and ROCD. 

  2. This course is led by a fully licensed therapist. Other ROCD courses are led by coaches. While coaches can be very skilled and helpful, they don’t have the extensive training that therapists do.

  3. This course is grounded in evidence-based strategies that we know from research are helpful for many people. 

  4. This course has been reviewed and vetted by other licensed therapists.

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FAQs

How do I know if this course is right for me?

This course is for high-functioning adults who are smart and successful in many places, yet struggle with anxiety in relationships. Many people who find this course have dealt with anxiety or worry since childhood.

I encourage you to read through the entirety of this page as well as my article here. If what I'm describing matches your experience, this course is likely right for you.

Regarding identity, this course is designed for anyone who wants to have a healthy, loving relationship. I make no assumption as to your partner's or your sexuality, religious beliefs, or any other identities.

What can I expect from this course?

Think course gives you the tools needed to find peace from ROCD.

By taking the course, you will learn how to:

  • Stop doing compulsions like confessing and seeking reassurance

  • Reconnect to courage, since courage is the antidote to fear

  • Do self-led ERP

  • Find peace by unhooking from intrusive thoughts

  • Connect to your values, which help you make choices that aren't just fear-based

  • Choose for yourself whether to stay in or leave your relationship

  • Skillfully handle any future setbacks

My biggest goal for you is that you discover that you can face scary things when something on the other side matters to you. Giving love a chance isn't easy, but it really really matters. Let me help you learn how.

Will taking this course lead me to break up with my partner?

The short answer is: No, this course will not make you do anything.

This is one of the most common fears around recovering from ROCD. The fear is that the course would lead you to discover "the truth" as to whether you're in the right relationship, and that you'd have to then leave your relationship because you know it's not right. As we'll talk about in the course though, there is no once-and-for-all answer like this. It just doesn't exist. Part of recovery comes from accepting this uncertainty and letting go of the belief in a right answer.

Let's look at the numbers: No one who has taken this course, nor anyone who has worked with me in therapy, has discovered something that has made them leave their partner. Humans just don't work that way.

Instead, as a result of doing this work, you'll be more likely to feel confident in yourself and get the kind of relationship you want.

Do I need to be in a relationship to use this course?

While you don't need to be in a relationship to benefit from this course, you'll have many more opportunities to put the course into practice if you're in a relationship or dating someone.

I’m already in therapy. Can this course help?

This course can be a great addition to therapy! I share this material with my therapy clients, and they've said it has been helpful for them in addition to our work during sessions.

This course is *not* a substitute for therapy.

Does this course work for guys?

Yes, this course is designed for anyone who's struggling with ongoing doubt and anxiety about their relationship.

ROCD does not discriminate! Anyone can struggle with relationship anxiety, and it manifests in similar ways in everyone: lots of intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and doubts about the rightness of your relationship. 

The strategies and techniques to manage ROCD are universally applicable.

Is there a difference between ROCD and relationship anxiety?

For the purposes of this course, I use "relationship anxiety" and "ROCD" to mean the same thing. Both point to a pattern of persistent doubt and fear around the rightness of a partner or relationship. Both involve fear of making a mistake. Both involve a lot of rigid thinking. And both require the same set of tools to overcome.

Do you offer refunds?

Because the course materials are downloadable, I don't offer refunds.

Why is the course called "Choosing Love"?

Great question! When people are stuck in ROCD, they almost always lose their sense of agency. They feel at times like they "have to" leave, "have to" confess, "have to" find an answer. Until a person takes back their agency - their ability to choose - they will not have recovered completely.

Few things are more healing than learning to choose.

Learning to choose means that each day you ask yourself "Am I going to play it safe, or am I going to give love a chance?"

My personal bias is that choosing love is the better direction. It's also what I see most everyone choose as they make progress in their recovery. But what I most want for you is that you learn to choose for yourself.

When we learn to choose in the face of fear and uncertainty, day after day, we become more confident and more directed toward what we want. As we do this, ROCD loses its hold over us.

Testimonials From Therapists

 “I highly recommend this course for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety. Cameron has a gift for breaking down complex concepts into digestible pieces. His tone throughout the course is that of a wise and friendly guide. The perspectives, skills, and tools offered come from a potent combination of personal + professional experience. If learning to better manage relationship anxiety is your goal, look no further!” 

Melissa Stringer, LPC

Connect & Reboot, TX

A powerful, pragmatic course that will help you relate more wisely with your significant other. Through a set of audio teachings, readings, and worksheets, you'll learn to calm unnecessary anxious thoughts and emotions quickly. Cameron is a highly skilled psychotherapist with years of experience guiding clients past ROCD. The course offers a lifetime of wisdom in a compact format, and I recommend it to anyone who wants to be set free to love more fully again. 

Tim Holtzman, LPCC

Therapist in Berkeley, CA

I can't think of a better resource for people struggling with relationship anxiety or relationship OCD. I have referred this course to many clients and all have benefited from it. Don't waste time with random online articles - choose this course instead. The insights, practical strategies, and compassionate guidance offered by this course are substantial and effective. I recommend it wholeheartedly.

Shannon Rogers, LMFT

Therapist in Walnut Creek, CA

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No matter how scared, confused, or hopeless you feel, I want you to know that you too can find peace and confidence.

We look forward to seeing you in the course!
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Disclaimer

This course is intended for educational purposes only.

This course is not a way of diagnosing yourself. I use the term ROCD very broadly, not as a diagnosis but as a label for people’s struggle with fear and uncertainty when forming and maintaining partnerships.

This course does not constitute therapy or mental health service of any kind. Even though I am a therapist, my role in this course is that of a teacher and educator. 

This course is meant for people who are not in mental health crisis. If you are in a mental health crisis, please find a professional who can work with you one-on-one.

This course is meant for people who are in safe relationships. If you are in an unsafe relationship, please find a professional who can help you get to safety. 

Please read the full Disclaimer and Terms of Service here before joining the course.